O coracao e a geografia

Quando o seu coracao nao pertence a um lugar, nao adianta insistir. Mas, voce pode faze-lo ‘contribuir’…Nessa vida, tudo tem o seu proposito.

Viver no momento, aproveitar as coisas boas, enxergar as oportunidades. Mas, e a tal da saudade!? Faz parte da vida expatriada; saber lidar com a saudade, viver no momento mesmo que com o coracao quase que partido rs.

Ao passo que fui me entrosando com as pessoas e comecei a ser parte ativa dessa sociedade do Vale do Silicio, logo percebi: opa, isso nao eh pra mim nao!

Tive a oportunidade de retornar a Inglaterra, nesse mes de julho/2015 – pais onde morei por uns 17 anos – e assim que desci do aviao, me senti totalmente em casa! O dia nao estava ensolarado…alias, raramente esta! Mas, nada havia mudado: a educacao, a cortesia e o respeito para com o outro imperam.

O choque ao chegar aqui no Vale do Silicio, vindo de outro pais, para mim, e sempre o mesmo: ‘no one cares’ – ninguem esta nem ai. E na imigracao…ai essa imigracao; esta mais para ‘humilhacao’ rs! E um sentimento horrivel passar pela imigracao Americana. Tenho sempre a impressao de que eles estao me fazendo um favor incrivel em me deixar entrar nos Estados Unidos da America. Come again, dear? Nos so estamos aqui devido a falta de ‘expertise’ nesse pais na area do meu marido rs! Sim, voces querem os PhD’s – Sorry, quem esta fazendo um favor a quem mesmo?! – Da um sorrisinho ai moco, e estendam-nos um: welcome!

Deixa eu lhes contar uma historia: estava eu um dia desses, aqui na loja Party City, em San Jose, quando encontro uma amiga, a Neide Hall. Neide, brasileirissima – a nossa ‘Neide dos biquinis’, nossa fashion designer – casada com um Americano muito querido. Estamos no caixa-  e como boas brasileiras que somos (!) batendo o maior papo com a mulher do caixa. E foi quando a Neide resolveu fazer uma brincadeira com a mini saia que estava usando:

-Olha Dri! Gostou da minha sainha?! – Ela estava com roupa de ginastica e antes que eu respondesse ela levantou a saia fazendo um ‘ Uuuuuu! ahahahahahaha!’

Era uma saia shorts/skort, entao quando a vendedora e eu pensavamos que a maluca da Neide ia mostrar a calcinha…era um shorts rs! – nao tinha ninguem na loja so mesmo nos; tres mulheres – era bem cedinho (Thank God!).

-Sorry! – eu falo ja vermelha de vergonha mas rindo muito, para a vendedora… – We are Brazilians, well, she is very unique though 😉 Desculpa! Nos somos Brasileiras, e a minha amiga aqui e uma peca rara! rs!

E a Americana, responde rindo:

-Oh, she is great! We need more people like her in America! She is a blessing to this country! (Ela eh otima! Nos precisamos de mais pessoas como ela aqui nos EUA, ela e uma bencao para esse pais!).

Yes! Exactly! We all are! Not only our PhD’s and Tech’s are great;  we are all a blessing to this country, in our own ways! You, me, all the Brazilian people 😉 Exatamente! Nos somos todos uma bencao para este pais! Nao somente os nossos PhD’s e os Tech’s! Voce, eu, todos os brasileiros do Vale que contribuem com seu proprio jeito de ser! Os que fazem o Vale mais leve, mais colorido, mais divertido!

Isso que essa mulher nao conhece a Claudia das coxinhas, a Caca Brigadeira, a Dinize Wales dos Shows e quantas outras Brasileiras do Vale! Nosso povo e simplesmente demais!

Estou aqui ha 4 anos e com o meu coracao…nada mudou rs!  Nao quero ficar. Mas, isso nao significa que enquanto estou morando aqui, vou cruzar meus bracos e olhar a vida passar! Em pleno Vale do Silicio? I don’t think so! Estou sempre fazendo alguma coisa interessante, aprendendo com todos e apoiando minha comunidade Brasileira.

We bring heart to this Valley! Vida! Nos podemos recriar aqui um Brasil melhor, aqui mesmo nesse nosso quadrado. Internationals bring colours to a country!

brazil flag children

Vem comigo!

Adri xxx

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‘A journey is best measured in friends, rather than miles’ – Tim Cahill

Looking back to this Summer’s trip from the Silicon Valley to Budapest and England: what an incredible experience!  I can see how much strengh I’ve gained from it. I realize how well behaved and really down to earth my children actually are.  Seriously, no bragging – I did not quite think of us like this, before we left the US. A lot has changed.

Throughout our journey we felt scared, joyfull, pleased, displeased, comfortable, really uncomfotable, welcome and not so welcome.  We’ve dealt with great disappointments and many ‘now what!?’ sort of situations. Our first flight got really delayed, we missed the flight from Zurich to Budapest, a lot of turbulence in one of the flights and a neurotic stuardess yealling: “Ladies and gentlemen put on your seat belts RIGHT NOW’! No kidding, it was dreadful, but now…it is our family joke; the day we nearly died!

Arriving at the airport and driving a stick car – I live in the Silicon Valley, stick car? Really?! Over here we are aiming at driverless cars, for peet’s sake 😉 It was me, my teen girls and our toddler, cruising around Budapest, with our lousy Hungarian, making tons of mistakes and getting lost most of the time.

The heat was almost unbearable. The logistics with the family were…well, you know families! Never easy… We were in this amazing part of town where you walk down a block and you meet the Danube! It was perfect; so Hungarian, so timeless! The little vendors by the river bank; a mix of contemporary and retro: Fellini with its colours and new flavours, the Langos shacks  – (Brazilians: imaginem aqui uma barraquinha de pastel) – with their usual run down looks and charms!

Fellini, by the Danube river bank; a must!
Fellini, by the Danube river bank; a must!

Budapest Cafes! My elder daughter and I felt like we were in a Cafe Marathon, as we were savouring as many lattes, coffees, teas and cakes as we could fit in one single afternoon! Cafes in Budapest are so full of European flair, flavour and taste!

La Delizia, Budapest
La Delizia, Budapest
Even donuts! I mean the best donuts ever!!!
Even donuts!? Donuts in Europe: a completely different ball game, so light, so yummy!

Ruin pubs, Arts Faires, Street markets and the majestic Hungarian Parliament -which we got to visit as VIP’s! That was too cool!

From inside the Grand Hungarian Parliament!
From inside the Grand Hungarian Parliament!
Where the fancy Hungarian guys used to rest their cigars! Check out the number ;)
Where the fancy Hungarian guys used to rest their cigars! Check out the numbers!

Then, you get on a flight or two and you are in England! Our home for nearly 20 years…How absolutely wonderful it was to land in Manchester! Even though I was driving on the right side, and again, a stick car 😉 I was at home, immediately, at home. And how can one not like people who call you ‘luv’ all the time?!

A sense of belonging :)
A sense of belonging – Roe Green Church, Manchester, UK

Our old house

This was our home!
This was our home!

our old street, the playground

These girls have been friends from birth. This is THEIR playground ;)
These girls have been friends from birth. This is THEIR playground.

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Our little Church,

My Godson is soo cute!
My Godson is soo cute!

our 10:45 am Sunday service…where I was invited to give a little testemony. This was how I started:

‘Hi! I am Adriana, I am Brazilian by birth, Hungarian by marriage and British by heart. We now live in California, right in Silicon Valley. We have 365 days of sunshine, we have no rain for 6 months! We have all the high tech you cannot imagine! Yes, we have it all! There is however, one thing we don’t have: You. We don’t have you, and that makes all the difference’. The Valley is an incredible place, full of opportunities, but it is also a place where ‘no one cares’. It’s a place in need of a heart’.

So, back here in the US, I can tell you: I had an amazing time! I travelled for over 15 hours to be home, with my friends and family. I bought nothing, I did not tour around much. I believe I gave the only thing I truly have: my time and love to people I care about, a lot. And, when you give you receive. I came back restored.

I invite you all to join me for a friendlier Silicon Valley experience: let’s put a heart in it! Not for the sake of ‘community service’ in your resumes, but for ourselves and for our children.

Cafe com Abraco/Coffee with a hug: we are meeting again! August 1st, Regale Winery, Los Gatos, CA. Cafe Relacionamento/Coffee Relationship: is  our next topic. Visit our Facebook group to get more info! Cafe com Abraco

love and hugs!

Adri xxx